Before we got married and were buying all the kitchen supplies, we probably had all dinners planed out for the next few weeks and in which pot and pan it will be made in. When buying the laundry basket we pictured ourselves doing the laundry. We kept thinking how cute of a wife well be, fancy dinners clean house, and laundry done. Of course we will look picture perfect because how embarsing it will be if our husband saw us looking ugly. And hate to break it to you men also think this way, unless he's a chief or very clean person, chances are he's relying on us to do it. They know we won't always be in makeup and in dresses but that's how they know us, so that how they imagining it.
We get married and we begin playing house, our fancy dinners made, our house is spotless and laundrys alway kept up to date. For some of use the fairytale continues a little longer but for some it ends very shortly. Suddenly they find out the greatest news of their lives, THEY'RE PREGNANT!
About two weeks later their lives are completely different than what they imagine their marriage would be like. The fancy dinner turn into takeout or left over of left overs because they couldn't handle the smell of cooking or they were to sick and tired to make anything. The laundry basket is full and there husband has no clean socks to wear, so he helps and does the laundry. The house suddenly looks like a tornado hit it but they can't be bothered by cleaning, because they are to tired, sick and unable to get out of bed. The husband Image of dresses and make up is now of pjs, pale skin, and there face stuck in a bag.
For any marriage pregnancy can be a real strain, the husbands are contestanly having to take care of us and the house. But those who aren't newlyweds, there husband know when we are overreacting because of hormones. He knows we always made dinner and the laundry was done, and he knows it's not done because of pregnancy and not because we just didn't want to.
For a newlywed couple to be going through pregnancy can be really stressful, he doesn't know if this is the real her or it's just because she's pregnant, no matter how many times they tell him I'm not like this, he doesn't/can't fully believe her. Yes, sometimes it can be really depressing, that is not how they imagined it, their lives are a disaster, and they feel disappointed. Some days can go by without speaking normally to one another, pregnant women just complain and ask for thing all day. What else beside crazy is a newlyweded husband sapose to think of his wife, if thats the way she acts and that's the way he's being treated. Their husbands may be distant because he thinks they are a psychopath, for many reason, it can be because everything he say she's just cries and gets insulted and says how mean he is, when all he was doing was trying to help and comfort her. Or one minute you want something and then the next you don't.
It doesn't mean at all they have a bad marriage, it just means they have much more of a challenge to overcome, being pregnant is a big strain on their marriage. Some at the end of the day are still filled with love and joy for their husbands and with their pregnancy, and some are down/depressed and feeling ashamed how they honestly wish they weren't pregnant. Some love there husbands even more, because of how helpful and understanding he is, and some are wishing their husband can be more understand. And some can be feeling all of these examples, depending on your day, mood and hormone levels.
Here's what to look for in up coming posts!
Profile!
What not to say to pregnant women!
How is your health?
Baby registries!
Babies heart beat!
Interviews!
Product reviews!
The advantage of exercise!
and much much more!
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